Starting over isn't easy, and no one said it was.
Starting a clean slate, starting over, and picking up the pieces you have takes time.
As time has passed by, so have I.
so, what's in the past stays in the past.
what's done is done.
what's over is completely over.
meaning i'm done.
clean slate.
Thursday, October 08, 2009
Friday, August 07, 2009
full/sole custody
I have full/sole custody of our children.
That means I have full access to them at all times, and have exclusive rights to whatever happens to them for the rest of their lives.
That means I get to choose on their well-care, well-being and their safety and protection.
Which is reassuring to know and to let others know the same.
That means I have full access to them at all times, and have exclusive rights to whatever happens to them for the rest of their lives.
That means I get to choose on their well-care, well-being and their safety and protection.
Which is reassuring to know and to let others know the same.
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
cutco: cuts your mind, with all the things u find. :)
Bismillaahir Rahmaanir Raheem.
In the name of Allah (God), Most Compassionate, Most Merciful.
Yes, a little bit helps 4 Cutco, as it cuts your mind, with all the things you need to find. I know it sounds cheesy, sorry. I apologize, I really, really apologize. I'm not really that type of person that does this, this is all new to me to go about doing this.
Even if no one is paying any attention or just are not interested. I know I may not be the greatest person at advertising, or socializing yet I'm trying my best at these communication skills, building skills of getting back into full swing.
You might be thinking, what is she talking about? What does she mean? What does her status mean, especially within the last few weeks when she's been talking about Cutco, and booking appointments, and contact me type of stuff? Well, I'll tell you.
I got a job, in where I sell Cutco. You ask what is cuto?
Well http://www.cutco.com To get a better idea, you'd have to go to that website to see.
To see the company I work for Vector Marketing, you'd have to go to http://www.vmcanada.ca/ Basically, I get paid to show Cutco presentations. Whether or not anyone buys anything or not, I still get paid.
If you get something, great...if you don't get anything, it's ok too because I still get a chance to visit you. And especially to my friends whom I haven't seen in the longest time, except at reunions, or passing on by through parties and etc, this gives us a chance to meet up, in person, at each other's houses for it.
Come on, tell me seriously, who wouldn't want to meet up for some old laughs over "Coconut College, Four Corners, and well all that stuff we went through all those years in school, you know the ones I mean"?
Or for people that don't remember, or want to remember cuz of our crazy adventures, talks, behaviors, attitudes, and hairdo's..ha ha....
Now, I don't want to sound like a pain in the rear end, or even a nuisance, or some of those real annoying telemarketing, salespeople, you know the ones I mean.
Like the ones that pester you, and you're like "No I'm sorry not interested," or you just hand the phone off to your children to talk, or do some rude gestures and motions into the phone, or something just as annoying that they don't call you back, or call you at that exact moment when they want to talk to you.
I don't want to be like that, and I really pray I don't come off as that, especially in my status updates, and especially, especially if I happen to facebook mail you, or send you a chat message.
I know some of you will try to be nice and curteous as possible by telling me you're just NOT interested, even if you're not going to buy anything you don't even want to take a quick peek, or quick glance because you don't want to get tempted and buy something on impulse, which I know can happen sometimes.
And I don't mind if you guys tell me off either, well..actually to be honest with you, I do mind..but please be kind and just tell me no way hosay and that's not your thing, and I'll try to back off and try to remember not to contact you
and even if I forget which I happen to do sometimes because with the list of my contacts I'm starting to lose track of whose who and where people live to see who I can contact, which I really, really apologize because I seem to have an excellent memory like an elephant yet resemble the mouse, :) or a skinny elephant with a super sharp memory of remembering ppl even if it's been 10-20 years..some even way back to 30 yrs ago...yikes! So, I don't want you to do that.
Yet, if you can, and don't mind sparing a few minutes of your time, to let me know which day works for you, which time, I can give you a day I'm free and timings, yet sometimes it'll work for you, and sometimes it won't work. I don't want to pressure you or force you, because I'm not one of those aggressive, pushy types of people.
Seriously guys! I'm a considerate, compassionate, caring person that just needs some people, leads, referrals, whatever you can throw at me just as long as it's not something hurtful like objects and spam junk emails and applications for poker games and such..like blinko, plinko win money on facebook, as if..ha ha. Even if you want to tell me to drop dead, and get a life, and get another job. That's great advice, I really appreciate that.
Even if you say, "Hina, you know, with the great skills you have, you can do so, so much more, and you have a lot in you." Great, that's great. I really appreciate it. Whether your comments are positive, or negative nature. You know nothing can really bring me down anymore really as I've been there, done that and I tell you...
I'm one of those types of people that refuse, refuse...refuse to give up...surrender...and give in.... I like to be motivated, determined, inspired, committed to really getting things done. So, please. I ask you...even if you can tell me of some of your friends that would be interested, all they have to do..or all you would have to do is just give me your name, #, and a day and time that would be good for you..or even your name and # in my private mail and I'll call you. Even if you can refer your friends, family...anyone....even if you want to get a good laugh at my own expense, fine..cool...I'm up for that too. So, I'm booking appointments this week, next week or within the next few weeks.
Let me know and I really, really appreciate your time, effort, patience, understanding, careth, yes, did I mention patience? and I'm sure, I'll be adding more things to this note, like a part 2, and part 3, for things I can think of to do, and plan and I really hope someone can squeeze in something..anything...you know.
And I'm doing this because I'm putting myself through school, going back to college after many many years away of staying at home with the kids, so it takes a lot, and need to pay the bills and such. Especially with the economy we're living in, recessions and such, need to do whatever I can as we all do. So, :)
I'll leave it at this end and say, it's all up to you. Thank you for listening, reading, and I apologize again for this mega long babble of a talk. And I wouldn't blame you if you happen to put me on your limited profile contact list, or cut me off completely like blocking me off, deleting me off, and removing me and even finding you from the facebook world to avoid me.
Hey, I know....sorry..... but....i don't want to be one of those dishonest ppl. I like my friends, i love them...i love to be upfront, respectful, and honest..sincere, compassionate, considerate, committed, trustworthy, sincere, patient, understanding, caring, sharing, oh I can list you a hundred other qualities, yet for all those that know me, personally from meeting me at conferences, and school, and parties you know the kind of "lively" person I am, and how friendly I am with everyone, doesn't matter if you're black, white, polka dotted, small, big, this country, that country, this background, that background, that religion, this religion, doesn't matter to me.
Each person matters, each person is unique and each person has their own style and method of doing things and I just want to say I know and I'm here. Whether you're having a real, really crappy day. I'm here to inspire you, to boost you..to tell you to hang in there and you'll get through it, I believe in you. I really do. I'm not just saying that to get you to contact me, but I do. I really care about my friends.
I was really distraught when I found out a couple of years ago, when one of our friends from high school passed away, it was really hard on me, especially since I saw her in the summer that year in 2007 and she was fine one day.......and as I returned overseas, I was talking to her one day and she was there fine...and I told her I'd talk to her soon as I was in the middle of something, and she too told me she had to meet up with ppl....that was the last time. And it hurts me that I never really got to say goodbye.
Which is why I made a promise to myself to talk to many of my friends as much as possible, keep in touch with them, visit them, even if we talk for a few mins on facebook, mail each other, talk to each o ther on the phone, see each other in person for a bit. Just a little bit helps. Esp the friends that say they're feeling crappy because of their crappy day and crappy life.
I want to say...pls... I like you, love you..you guys are great ppl. and not to give up. We all have those days, and I know...hey I really know...so I want to say..pls don't ever feel like that. and if you do...contact me and I really hope I'm there to help you out as much as I can possibly can. I really don't know what I'd do if I found out another friend something would happen to them that I never got a chance to say goodbye... so pls... anyways dont want to really go off topic yet I put all of this into one long one, so I leave it at this. :)
A little bit helps for Cutco, as it cuts your mind, and gives you all that you can find. :)
and for those that are getting married you can register, get gift registry too http://www.cutcogiftregistry.ca
so contact me and I'll pass you my name and my rep # and depending on your friends, and family that buy stuff on there for you for your wedding/marriage etc, that I get commissions/points from them.
So for those whom I can't do presentations cuz of location, you guys all live far, far away so this is another way.
and I think to go through that method, and even if I have to show you the products through :D online I will.
so.. :)
In the name of Allah (God), Most Compassionate, Most Merciful.
Yes, a little bit helps 4 Cutco, as it cuts your mind, with all the things you need to find. I know it sounds cheesy, sorry. I apologize, I really, really apologize. I'm not really that type of person that does this, this is all new to me to go about doing this.
Even if no one is paying any attention or just are not interested. I know I may not be the greatest person at advertising, or socializing yet I'm trying my best at these communication skills, building skills of getting back into full swing.
You might be thinking, what is she talking about? What does she mean? What does her status mean, especially within the last few weeks when she's been talking about Cutco, and booking appointments, and contact me type of stuff? Well, I'll tell you.
I got a job, in where I sell Cutco. You ask what is cuto?
Well http://www.cutco.com To get a better idea, you'd have to go to that website to see.
To see the company I work for Vector Marketing, you'd have to go to http://www.vmcanada.ca/ Basically, I get paid to show Cutco presentations. Whether or not anyone buys anything or not, I still get paid.
If you get something, great...if you don't get anything, it's ok too because I still get a chance to visit you. And especially to my friends whom I haven't seen in the longest time, except at reunions, or passing on by through parties and etc, this gives us a chance to meet up, in person, at each other's houses for it.
Come on, tell me seriously, who wouldn't want to meet up for some old laughs over "Coconut College, Four Corners, and well all that stuff we went through all those years in school, you know the ones I mean"?
Or for people that don't remember, or want to remember cuz of our crazy adventures, talks, behaviors, attitudes, and hairdo's..ha ha....
Now, I don't want to sound like a pain in the rear end, or even a nuisance, or some of those real annoying telemarketing, salespeople, you know the ones I mean.
Like the ones that pester you, and you're like "No I'm sorry not interested," or you just hand the phone off to your children to talk, or do some rude gestures and motions into the phone, or something just as annoying that they don't call you back, or call you at that exact moment when they want to talk to you.
I don't want to be like that, and I really pray I don't come off as that, especially in my status updates, and especially, especially if I happen to facebook mail you, or send you a chat message.
I know some of you will try to be nice and curteous as possible by telling me you're just NOT interested, even if you're not going to buy anything you don't even want to take a quick peek, or quick glance because you don't want to get tempted and buy something on impulse, which I know can happen sometimes.
And I don't mind if you guys tell me off either, well..actually to be honest with you, I do mind..but please be kind and just tell me no way hosay and that's not your thing, and I'll try to back off and try to remember not to contact you
and even if I forget which I happen to do sometimes because with the list of my contacts I'm starting to lose track of whose who and where people live to see who I can contact, which I really, really apologize because I seem to have an excellent memory like an elephant yet resemble the mouse, :) or a skinny elephant with a super sharp memory of remembering ppl even if it's been 10-20 years..some even way back to 30 yrs ago...yikes! So, I don't want you to do that.
Yet, if you can, and don't mind sparing a few minutes of your time, to let me know which day works for you, which time, I can give you a day I'm free and timings, yet sometimes it'll work for you, and sometimes it won't work. I don't want to pressure you or force you, because I'm not one of those aggressive, pushy types of people.
Seriously guys! I'm a considerate, compassionate, caring person that just needs some people, leads, referrals, whatever you can throw at me just as long as it's not something hurtful like objects and spam junk emails and applications for poker games and such..like blinko, plinko win money on facebook, as if..ha ha. Even if you want to tell me to drop dead, and get a life, and get another job. That's great advice, I really appreciate that.
Even if you say, "Hina, you know, with the great skills you have, you can do so, so much more, and you have a lot in you." Great, that's great. I really appreciate it. Whether your comments are positive, or negative nature. You know nothing can really bring me down anymore really as I've been there, done that and I tell you...
I'm one of those types of people that refuse, refuse...refuse to give up...surrender...and give in.... I like to be motivated, determined, inspired, committed to really getting things done. So, please. I ask you...even if you can tell me of some of your friends that would be interested, all they have to do..or all you would have to do is just give me your name, #, and a day and time that would be good for you..or even your name and # in my private mail and I'll call you. Even if you can refer your friends, family...anyone....even if you want to get a good laugh at my own expense, fine..cool...I'm up for that too. So, I'm booking appointments this week, next week or within the next few weeks.
Let me know and I really, really appreciate your time, effort, patience, understanding, careth, yes, did I mention patience? and I'm sure, I'll be adding more things to this note, like a part 2, and part 3, for things I can think of to do, and plan and I really hope someone can squeeze in something..anything...you know.
And I'm doing this because I'm putting myself through school, going back to college after many many years away of staying at home with the kids, so it takes a lot, and need to pay the bills and such. Especially with the economy we're living in, recessions and such, need to do whatever I can as we all do. So, :)
I'll leave it at this end and say, it's all up to you. Thank you for listening, reading, and I apologize again for this mega long babble of a talk. And I wouldn't blame you if you happen to put me on your limited profile contact list, or cut me off completely like blocking me off, deleting me off, and removing me and even finding you from the facebook world to avoid me.
Hey, I know....sorry..... but....i don't want to be one of those dishonest ppl. I like my friends, i love them...i love to be upfront, respectful, and honest..sincere, compassionate, considerate, committed, trustworthy, sincere, patient, understanding, caring, sharing, oh I can list you a hundred other qualities, yet for all those that know me, personally from meeting me at conferences, and school, and parties you know the kind of "lively" person I am, and how friendly I am with everyone, doesn't matter if you're black, white, polka dotted, small, big, this country, that country, this background, that background, that religion, this religion, doesn't matter to me.
Each person matters, each person is unique and each person has their own style and method of doing things and I just want to say I know and I'm here. Whether you're having a real, really crappy day. I'm here to inspire you, to boost you..to tell you to hang in there and you'll get through it, I believe in you. I really do. I'm not just saying that to get you to contact me, but I do. I really care about my friends.
I was really distraught when I found out a couple of years ago, when one of our friends from high school passed away, it was really hard on me, especially since I saw her in the summer that year in 2007 and she was fine one day.......and as I returned overseas, I was talking to her one day and she was there fine...and I told her I'd talk to her soon as I was in the middle of something, and she too told me she had to meet up with ppl....that was the last time. And it hurts me that I never really got to say goodbye.
Which is why I made a promise to myself to talk to many of my friends as much as possible, keep in touch with them, visit them, even if we talk for a few mins on facebook, mail each other, talk to each o ther on the phone, see each other in person for a bit. Just a little bit helps. Esp the friends that say they're feeling crappy because of their crappy day and crappy life.
I want to say...pls... I like you, love you..you guys are great ppl. and not to give up. We all have those days, and I know...hey I really know...so I want to say..pls don't ever feel like that. and if you do...contact me and I really hope I'm there to help you out as much as I can possibly can. I really don't know what I'd do if I found out another friend something would happen to them that I never got a chance to say goodbye... so pls... anyways dont want to really go off topic yet I put all of this into one long one, so I leave it at this. :)
A little bit helps for Cutco, as it cuts your mind, and gives you all that you can find. :)
and for those that are getting married you can register, get gift registry too http://www.cutcogiftregistry.ca
so contact me and I'll pass you my name and my rep # and depending on your friends, and family that buy stuff on there for you for your wedding/marriage etc, that I get commissions/points from them.
So for those whom I can't do presentations cuz of location, you guys all live far, far away so this is another way.
and I think to go through that method, and even if I have to show you the products through :D online I will.
so.. :)
Wednesday, July 01, 2009
hajj and then some
The other night my children and I sat gathered around my computer as we watched an "old hajj" cd of ours that was produced in Dec 2007.
It was suppose to be a 20 episode of the series of our Hajj experience, but we were just sent a 40 min clip preview of it. My sons wanted to see themselves as they were eager to catch a glimpse of themselves yet I told them the CD is very basic.
So we watched it, with some of the scenes being quite disturbing to them that they had to block it from straining their eyes.
And then, they sat around reading other articles and such online with me. This is around 11pm at night when they should be in bed, but rather they were gathering around me talking to me, and asking me all sorts of questions.
And it was their summer vacation as is their summer vacation so I let them ask the questions, and I let them go on and read these articles and post in their responses, I told them whatever you feel and as long as it's appropriate then please comment and post it as it is. Which they did.
I do supervise when they do research and read articles on line, as much as still letting them read as much as they need to know and learn and grow.
So, that's my 2 cents.
I share add my 5 cents of worthy cause of information of my mid-term online exam is this week, 1 presentation in a couple of days, 2 reports due next week, 1 other presentation next week, 2 final exams the week later.
PLUS work, I got a job! Alhamdulillah. Awesome, awesome!
Ok. Still need to find a 2nd job though, one job isn't enough to feed, clothe, and take care of 3 little ones as well as myself.
which is why I propose to holding a garage / auction sale soon. Old records, record player, books, toys, toys that my kids no longer seem interested in anymore these days, and toys that were passed down to us from cousins and such that the kids have no interest in playing and it just sits there in the box, collecting dust, taking up room and space in which a child, someone that would appreciate it, love it, might enjoy playing with it which is why I want to get rid of the clutter.
PLUS my kids are fascinated with these plastic cups that they are building towers out of them building them up high and blowing it down with their stinky breath, ha ha, and kung foo'ing it down, and accidently being pushed into it, and sitting on it, and letting the natural wind outside blow it down, and mowing their jump ropes into it and such.
Yes, and their Wii's and ds's and such. But, they have a whole round of books to keep them occupied and busy.
The books I'm getting rid of our mine, and some old recipe books that are more useful find on line.
so I better get back at cracking at the books, the notes, the reports, the presentations of final touches, dealing with :D :D and work...joy of work....and joy of it.
but no joy in immaturity, no joy in harassing ones that seem more obsessive and possessive in holding onto things not belonging to them, and thinking it will somehow threaten a person's well being.
well hasn't and what hasn't has made me STRONGER to say, sorry but doesnt work.
try again.
don't let the door hit you on your way out.
take care
It was suppose to be a 20 episode of the series of our Hajj experience, but we were just sent a 40 min clip preview of it. My sons wanted to see themselves as they were eager to catch a glimpse of themselves yet I told them the CD is very basic.
So we watched it, with some of the scenes being quite disturbing to them that they had to block it from straining their eyes.
And then, they sat around reading other articles and such online with me. This is around 11pm at night when they should be in bed, but rather they were gathering around me talking to me, and asking me all sorts of questions.
And it was their summer vacation as is their summer vacation so I let them ask the questions, and I let them go on and read these articles and post in their responses, I told them whatever you feel and as long as it's appropriate then please comment and post it as it is. Which they did.
I do supervise when they do research and read articles on line, as much as still letting them read as much as they need to know and learn and grow.
So, that's my 2 cents.
I share add my 5 cents of worthy cause of information of my mid-term online exam is this week, 1 presentation in a couple of days, 2 reports due next week, 1 other presentation next week, 2 final exams the week later.
PLUS work, I got a job! Alhamdulillah. Awesome, awesome!
Ok. Still need to find a 2nd job though, one job isn't enough to feed, clothe, and take care of 3 little ones as well as myself.
which is why I propose to holding a garage / auction sale soon. Old records, record player, books, toys, toys that my kids no longer seem interested in anymore these days, and toys that were passed down to us from cousins and such that the kids have no interest in playing and it just sits there in the box, collecting dust, taking up room and space in which a child, someone that would appreciate it, love it, might enjoy playing with it which is why I want to get rid of the clutter.
PLUS my kids are fascinated with these plastic cups that they are building towers out of them building them up high and blowing it down with their stinky breath, ha ha, and kung foo'ing it down, and accidently being pushed into it, and sitting on it, and letting the natural wind outside blow it down, and mowing their jump ropes into it and such.
Yes, and their Wii's and ds's and such. But, they have a whole round of books to keep them occupied and busy.
The books I'm getting rid of our mine, and some old recipe books that are more useful find on line.
so I better get back at cracking at the books, the notes, the reports, the presentations of final touches, dealing with :D :D and work...joy of work....and joy of it.
but no joy in immaturity, no joy in harassing ones that seem more obsessive and possessive in holding onto things not belonging to them, and thinking it will somehow threaten a person's well being.
well hasn't and what hasn't has made me STRONGER to say, sorry but doesnt work.
try again.
don't let the door hit you on your way out.
take care
Friday, June 19, 2009
Tuesday, June 09, 2009
2003 till now
Wow!
I signed up for this blog in early Jan 2003, and now it's June 2009.
A lot has changed in the past 6 years.
If I had known then, what I didn't know now. I wonder if I would have to go through it still?
I think and wonder that it made me a lot stronger, and looking at things from a different angle.
Usually I'd look at it this way. Now, when I glance at it. I really, really, examine it. I read it from a different point of view. I read it as if I'm in those shoes, and those are what I could/would be feeling if that happened to me.
And it makes me realize that despite all I've gone through, there are a lot of women/people that have gone through worse. There were people in the time of the Prophet SAW and the Companions (RA) that gone through struggles, and the other Prophets, and the followers during those times, and the struggles on what they went through, and the people of our ancestors and the struggles they went through to migrate to this place, and dealing with the discrimination that they faced.
And the ones now dealing with the struggles and pressures of today. The media, the society, the environment, this whole recession going on, with the economy going down, and people losing their jobs, and not having a lot!
Take it from me, from a person that was born and brought up in Canada, and having all these privileges available and resources easily accesible. And going to other places in where these things are not easily available all the time, it was quite a struggle.
You learned to appreciate it, even the essence of the quality and quantity of water, the pressure of water available, and not having to wait for the water to heat up, and going through a water tank and waiting for the water tank man to come fill it up.
*Sigh*
From a person that had to go through that, plus the emotional, verbal, and other types of abuse in a relationship, in a marriage in where we're suppose to completely put our trust in each other, and careth, and love and patience, understanding and all, that it all comes down to boil to this.
abuse is never ok.....it's a crime against human law, and against islamic law. If people want to flash the islamic law cards at me, then you have to go through it all the way, and go according to what it says all the time. It's not a pick and choose and do whatever suits you kind of thing.
If it doesn't work for you, you can do without.
It's real annoying that we have to always apologize for something we didn't do, or something we did do to excuse for the abuse taking place. But, when you stand up for your rights, and stand up for this cause, you have the upper hand. You have that firm to say, you won't take this anymore and there's no one that can tell you otherwise.
No one that can bully you, or intimidate you into keeping it quiet and all "hush" "hush".
There can be people that spread such things to discredit you, because they are afraid people will believe you and not be with them.
That's their problem if they promote/support abusers to continue abusing because they want to keep them pleased and bring the money in.
Allahu Alim.
I can honestly say, that people like that have the disease in their hearts. They feel the rules of Islam, and rules of the world only apply to other people and not to them. They feel that they are exempted from it, from the responsibilities because Allah understands their pressures and knows. Yes, it's true Allah Knows All!
And Knows Best.
But, by saying that, you sure be aware of the intention, and if your intention isn't pure, and real then really what is the point?
I signed up for this blog in early Jan 2003, and now it's June 2009.
A lot has changed in the past 6 years.
If I had known then, what I didn't know now. I wonder if I would have to go through it still?
I think and wonder that it made me a lot stronger, and looking at things from a different angle.
Usually I'd look at it this way. Now, when I glance at it. I really, really, examine it. I read it from a different point of view. I read it as if I'm in those shoes, and those are what I could/would be feeling if that happened to me.
And it makes me realize that despite all I've gone through, there are a lot of women/people that have gone through worse. There were people in the time of the Prophet SAW and the Companions (RA) that gone through struggles, and the other Prophets, and the followers during those times, and the struggles on what they went through, and the people of our ancestors and the struggles they went through to migrate to this place, and dealing with the discrimination that they faced.
And the ones now dealing with the struggles and pressures of today. The media, the society, the environment, this whole recession going on, with the economy going down, and people losing their jobs, and not having a lot!
Take it from me, from a person that was born and brought up in Canada, and having all these privileges available and resources easily accesible. And going to other places in where these things are not easily available all the time, it was quite a struggle.
You learned to appreciate it, even the essence of the quality and quantity of water, the pressure of water available, and not having to wait for the water to heat up, and going through a water tank and waiting for the water tank man to come fill it up.
*Sigh*
From a person that had to go through that, plus the emotional, verbal, and other types of abuse in a relationship, in a marriage in where we're suppose to completely put our trust in each other, and careth, and love and patience, understanding and all, that it all comes down to boil to this.
abuse is never ok.....it's a crime against human law, and against islamic law. If people want to flash the islamic law cards at me, then you have to go through it all the way, and go according to what it says all the time. It's not a pick and choose and do whatever suits you kind of thing.
If it doesn't work for you, you can do without.
It's real annoying that we have to always apologize for something we didn't do, or something we did do to excuse for the abuse taking place. But, when you stand up for your rights, and stand up for this cause, you have the upper hand. You have that firm to say, you won't take this anymore and there's no one that can tell you otherwise.
No one that can bully you, or intimidate you into keeping it quiet and all "hush" "hush".
There can be people that spread such things to discredit you, because they are afraid people will believe you and not be with them.
That's their problem if they promote/support abusers to continue abusing because they want to keep them pleased and bring the money in.
Allahu Alim.
I can honestly say, that people like that have the disease in their hearts. They feel the rules of Islam, and rules of the world only apply to other people and not to them. They feel that they are exempted from it, from the responsibilities because Allah understands their pressures and knows. Yes, it's true Allah Knows All!
And Knows Best.
But, by saying that, you sure be aware of the intention, and if your intention isn't pure, and real then really what is the point?
Monday, June 08, 2009
my recipes
I have another blog in which I post recipes and things.
You are more than welcomed to check it out, and pass it around and even try the recipes yourself.
Very simple, and easy to read and prepare.
http://ibyisaliamom.wordpress.com
As for now, I am preparing this amazing 4 layer lasagna dish, bottom layer of cooked ground beef, then 2nd layer of vegetables, 3rd layer of meat, and 4th layer of veg/riccota cheese.
In between each layer, it's smothered in shredded mozarella/cheddar cheese, with a creamy tomato sauce.
and baked to such delicious smell of aroma from the tomato sauce, and noodles, and mmm..
you just have to try it!
:D
for the recipe.....check the above link for it and many more.
You are more than welcomed to check it out, and pass it around and even try the recipes yourself.
Very simple, and easy to read and prepare.
http://ibyisaliamom.wordpress.com
As for now, I am preparing this amazing 4 layer lasagna dish, bottom layer of cooked ground beef, then 2nd layer of vegetables, 3rd layer of meat, and 4th layer of veg/riccota cheese.
In between each layer, it's smothered in shredded mozarella/cheddar cheese, with a creamy tomato sauce.
and baked to such delicious smell of aroma from the tomato sauce, and noodles, and mmm..
you just have to try it!
:D
for the recipe.....check the above link for it and many more.
Thursday, June 04, 2009
myownfreemind
My ownfreemind has some really insightful things in it.
Check it out if you can.
http://myownfreemind.blogspot.com
Check it out if you can.
http://myownfreemind.blogspot.com
Tuesday, June 02, 2009
copy and paste
Is it just me or can no one copy and paste? I've been trying to copy and paste a document piece and it just won't seem to let me do that. Yet I can post my own, and even if my own was posted elsewhere and I just want to add it here too, it won't let me.
Friday, May 29, 2009
As people tell me I should not blog.
I ask them what about the million others that blog, some rant and rave about the same things.
They say those people do not concern them, but what I do concerns them deeply as my words matter.
Sometimes they'll say it does not matter, if it does not matter then you would not make it a point to use my "blogs" against me as a threat, a promise or whatever excuse you want to do.
People tell me to stop blogging, stop face-booking, stop msn'ing, stop it altogether.
but why?
If I were to type in the blog search of certain issues, you'd see tons of blogs out there on these subjects, what makes mine any different from theirs?
is it because I said things that are very sensitive that hit very close to home?
is it because it's getting you to face reality, the reality that is close to home?
abuse exists.
does not matter if you did not see it, it exists.
you can deny it all you want, you can say well i made it up because i'm a sick individual that has nothing better to do with her time, because i love the drama, etc.... i've heard it all before, yet not true...... a person would not pretend to be sick, a person would not fake severe migraines just to get out of "household chores, or minding the children".
If you can name a person, a reliable person, a valid person, a real person, than I would like to ask that person if they stooped down low and if they did, why is it that others that speak the truth get a bad reputation, a bad name as a result of just that one individual?
Also, that one individual or even a group of people that did that does not mean necessarily that I fall into that same category.
Allahu Alim.
We need to stop the generalization and stereotyping. As there are tears falling, from my eyes, and from yours.
As there were tears falling from the Prophet SAW as he read the last Sermon, tears, real tears falling at the state of the Ummah would face.
As we look back into the past and see in which our own brothers and sisters in Islam suffered, we see that Islam opened up many opportunities to them to get their justice, to get their sense of peace, tranquility, hope and a sense of goodness.
Islam does not tolerate abuse, no excuses for it. Islam does not encourage abuse, nor does it say we should ignore it. Islam does not say we should not speak of it, or pretend it's not existing.
As Muslims we shouldn't, but unfortunately we have and are.
I can honestly say that there are a lot of us that are coming out into the open about the "abuse" we lived through, and does that mean because we are threatened we should stop because there are too many people that wants it to continue on and on, until our great-great grand children will be the ones to eliminate it period!
I do not want to wait till our great, great, grandchildren come to stop it. I want to start now.
and I hope you do too.
I ask them what about the million others that blog, some rant and rave about the same things.
They say those people do not concern them, but what I do concerns them deeply as my words matter.
Sometimes they'll say it does not matter, if it does not matter then you would not make it a point to use my "blogs" against me as a threat, a promise or whatever excuse you want to do.
People tell me to stop blogging, stop face-booking, stop msn'ing, stop it altogether.
but why?
If I were to type in the blog search of certain issues, you'd see tons of blogs out there on these subjects, what makes mine any different from theirs?
is it because I said things that are very sensitive that hit very close to home?
is it because it's getting you to face reality, the reality that is close to home?
abuse exists.
does not matter if you did not see it, it exists.
you can deny it all you want, you can say well i made it up because i'm a sick individual that has nothing better to do with her time, because i love the drama, etc.... i've heard it all before, yet not true...... a person would not pretend to be sick, a person would not fake severe migraines just to get out of "household chores, or minding the children".
If you can name a person, a reliable person, a valid person, a real person, than I would like to ask that person if they stooped down low and if they did, why is it that others that speak the truth get a bad reputation, a bad name as a result of just that one individual?
Also, that one individual or even a group of people that did that does not mean necessarily that I fall into that same category.
Allahu Alim.
We need to stop the generalization and stereotyping. As there are tears falling, from my eyes, and from yours.
As there were tears falling from the Prophet SAW as he read the last Sermon, tears, real tears falling at the state of the Ummah would face.
As we look back into the past and see in which our own brothers and sisters in Islam suffered, we see that Islam opened up many opportunities to them to get their justice, to get their sense of peace, tranquility, hope and a sense of goodness.
Islam does not tolerate abuse, no excuses for it. Islam does not encourage abuse, nor does it say we should ignore it. Islam does not say we should not speak of it, or pretend it's not existing.
As Muslims we shouldn't, but unfortunately we have and are.
I can honestly say that there are a lot of us that are coming out into the open about the "abuse" we lived through, and does that mean because we are threatened we should stop because there are too many people that wants it to continue on and on, until our great-great grand children will be the ones to eliminate it period!
I do not want to wait till our great, great, grandchildren come to stop it. I want to start now.
and I hope you do too.
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
hmmmm
Is it just me, or do people do not know how to read these days?
My webpage, one of my 1st websites that I wrote over 11 years ago is still standing.
http://listen.to/ummnurah or http://www.angelfire.com/me/ummnurah
and
http://welcome.to/prophets or http://www.angelfire.com/on/ummiby1
The first two are the same ones, the first one is easier to memorize and say and the 2nd is the longer version of it.
The first two came out in 1998 or so as I was working on it back then. It was shortly after my son Ibrahim was born. He's now 11, no longer little one anymore.
My 2nd one of prophets are "Stories of the Prophets" by Ibn Kathir. I remember having that book when I lived in Cairo, and learning from them back then, that book was published in 1996 yet it was not available in the U.S. or Canada, yet if I wanted for the good purpose of spreading the knowledge of this enlighting book I could post all the information as it could encourage people to purchase their own books.
Now I'm told it's available in many different languages, and it is now available in the U.S. and in Canada, and it has been over 13 years since the book came out so I guess it's good progress.
I just have to say though, please.....
I'm a sister.
I'm a woman, a mother, a sister, a daughter, an aunt, a cousin, a friend, a sister in islam, and please when you send me an email, or sign my guestbook please do not address it as "Dear brother" Or "you're such a great guy brother."
That's why it says Mother of Light, mothers are usually females, women as far as I know and remember so please...address it as that.
JazakuAllahkhairun.
My webpage, one of my 1st websites that I wrote over 11 years ago is still standing.
http://listen.to/ummnurah or http://www.angelfire.com/me/ummnurah
and
http://welcome.to/prophets or http://www.angelfire.com/on/ummiby1
The first two are the same ones, the first one is easier to memorize and say and the 2nd is the longer version of it.
The first two came out in 1998 or so as I was working on it back then. It was shortly after my son Ibrahim was born. He's now 11, no longer little one anymore.
My 2nd one of prophets are "Stories of the Prophets" by Ibn Kathir. I remember having that book when I lived in Cairo, and learning from them back then, that book was published in 1996 yet it was not available in the U.S. or Canada, yet if I wanted for the good purpose of spreading the knowledge of this enlighting book I could post all the information as it could encourage people to purchase their own books.
Now I'm told it's available in many different languages, and it is now available in the U.S. and in Canada, and it has been over 13 years since the book came out so I guess it's good progress.
I just have to say though, please.....
I'm a sister.
I'm a woman, a mother, a sister, a daughter, an aunt, a cousin, a friend, a sister in islam, and please when you send me an email, or sign my guestbook please do not address it as "Dear brother" Or "you're such a great guy brother."
That's why it says Mother of Light, mothers are usually females, women as far as I know and remember so please...address it as that.
JazakuAllahkhairun.
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
UPDATED!
I just completed my 1st year at college in Office Admins-Legal.
I got pretty awesome grades.
Right now I'm taking part-time summer classes, and looking for a job.
Still dealing with the troubles of going through the process of divorce, and being a single mom raising 3 kids. My parents have been quite supportive and helpful through all of this.
My ex, not so much, still the same and still denying to owe anything to his children.
But, that's his game.
If he wants to be immature like that and do that. It'll all reflect on that.
I still have another year to go and I hope I can get through it insha'Allah.
I got pretty awesome grades.
Right now I'm taking part-time summer classes, and looking for a job.
Still dealing with the troubles of going through the process of divorce, and being a single mom raising 3 kids. My parents have been quite supportive and helpful through all of this.
My ex, not so much, still the same and still denying to owe anything to his children.
But, that's his game.
If he wants to be immature like that and do that. It'll all reflect on that.
I still have another year to go and I hope I can get through it insha'Allah.
Tuesday, November 04, 2008
Back to School, Stand on my own two feet.
I'm back in school,
standing on my own two feet.
I have to do this, for my children's sake.
As it is us, on our own, supporting each other.
My ex who claims to be a so called righteous, religious muslim has forfeit his obligations towards supporting his children.
He or his friend says they do not owe anything to us at all islamically wise and I can't get them legal wise either since they're safely in Jordan.
He's a coward, a child, an immature, childish child that cannot handle responsibility.
Fine, you have something against me good. But, these are your children. To deny to send money to support them is cold, wrong and stupid.
You're going to regret that because kids remember, even the slightest little things.
And no matter how much I try to convince them it's your own fault for making this stupid decision.
Fine, we're not together great. We both made our choices to go our separate ways. Why not deal with it, like a man should rather then hide behind someone to "represent" you?
And when you bring blackmail into this, it's when you step over the line.
I do not feel you should work for Sunnipath, how can you work for that and still deny your children to support them?
Look on the Q and A of Sunnipath and see what it says, It clearly marks that it's the man's duty no matter what to send child support money. There's no reason at all for me or the children to be denied that and say nothing should be owed at all.
But, HEY if that's what floats your boat then that's entirely up to you.
But, I can't force the kids to like you, care for you, or even acknowledge you if you won't even acknowledge them.
But, what do you care anyways? You're going to get yourself a new family, and other children so who cares about these 3 right? Nice attitude.
Well, if ppl only knew the real truth then they really would know the games you play to get what you want. AstagfirAllah!
standing on my own two feet.
I have to do this, for my children's sake.
As it is us, on our own, supporting each other.
My ex who claims to be a so called righteous, religious muslim has forfeit his obligations towards supporting his children.
He or his friend says they do not owe anything to us at all islamically wise and I can't get them legal wise either since they're safely in Jordan.
He's a coward, a child, an immature, childish child that cannot handle responsibility.
Fine, you have something against me good. But, these are your children. To deny to send money to support them is cold, wrong and stupid.
You're going to regret that because kids remember, even the slightest little things.
And no matter how much I try to convince them it's your own fault for making this stupid decision.
Fine, we're not together great. We both made our choices to go our separate ways. Why not deal with it, like a man should rather then hide behind someone to "represent" you?
And when you bring blackmail into this, it's when you step over the line.
I do not feel you should work for Sunnipath, how can you work for that and still deny your children to support them?
Look on the Q and A of Sunnipath and see what it says, It clearly marks that it's the man's duty no matter what to send child support money. There's no reason at all for me or the children to be denied that and say nothing should be owed at all.
But, HEY if that's what floats your boat then that's entirely up to you.
But, I can't force the kids to like you, care for you, or even acknowledge you if you won't even acknowledge them.
But, what do you care anyways? You're going to get yourself a new family, and other children so who cares about these 3 right? Nice attitude.
Well, if ppl only knew the real truth then they really would know the games you play to get what you want. AstagfirAllah!
Friday, August 22, 2008
You Know
You know, you're asleep, or tired, when you misread something, and do a double take and see what's actually there.
So, I'm looking at the advertisement to my right hand side of Facebook. I see where it says "Nannies from Heaven." Of course though I read it as "Names from Heaven" and I'm like huh, what kind of names would fall under heaven?
Who would be the one to authorize or say that? Is that their personal opinion or some actual fact? Yeah, then I just blinked and saw that it really read as "Nannies from Heaven." even though this is also strange and weird.
I've seen some strange ads here, like this other one, buy 1 and get 1 free. You're thinking oh cool, what are they selling? You scroll down and they're selling yoga lessons. Oh so you buy a lesson and get one lesson free. Hmm.
Or how about the "lose weight" ads, how many times do we see that? Do people even have a choice whether or not they want to see or not see those ads? Or how about any ads for that matter?
I know it's Face book and that comes with the site and if we don't like the ads we can join elsewhere. But, still. It's like your rights are being violated, monitored and all by these ads that is totally messing up your computer.
It's bad enough that we walk around our neighborhood and see the billboard signs and advertisements and in the magazines on how our "society" should be like, and the "ideal man and woman" and "perfect body" and all that crap stuff, so I guess it's reasonable enough for them to do it here right? It's expected?
It's needed, because if we aren't going to see it offline because we're lazing around then we may as well get it here?I don't know, if we ever have a chance in the future to have the option not to have these ads I'd vote them to take it out and just let us fix our face book however we want to.
I don't know about the "NEW" facebook look yet, I was so use to the old one that this new one will take time. I also wish there was another way to treat this as if it was a book.
So your profile, your info is the cover page. The next page if you click on it will take you to your walls, fun walls, super walls and regular walls then the next will take you to your friends list, groups, and what nots and last but not least another page just for all the applications you have or games and all that.It'll be all looking like a book or even a newsletter and you have that option to choose it that way, in your own colors for the background and text and all.Yeah, that's a hope.
Thursday, April 10, 2008
Update
It's now April, it has been 4-5 months since I last updated my blog(s).
Let's see of all the changes that happened since then.
I went for Hajj in Dec 2007. Actually my husband and I won the trip to Hajj.
I remember recieving a phone call and a man on the phone telling me that I won a trip for Hajj. I asked him how he got my number, and he told me a sister gave it to him. I asked if this was a joke. He said it wasn't a joke and that it was real. That's when I told him to talk to my husband about it.
Anyways to make a long story short, we were able to go for Hajj as long as this production company for Saudi channel 2 would be able to film a documentary on Hajj called "Journey of a Life time". So we were able to do our Hajj, yet we still had to do some filming of Hajj rites and things. It was good. It was an amazing experience. Alhamdulillah.
So, it's about 20 episodes series and if you get satellite, depending on your local area check for a show called "Journey of a Life time" Saudi channel 2, production by Waseelah Production Company.
We also moved into a new home in Dec 2007.
Isa turned 6 in Dec 2007, Daliyah turned 2 in Jan 2008, and Ibrahim turned 10 in March 2008.
There's not much really going on, except the kids are getting older and bigger.
Daliyah wants to be potty trained so she insists that diapers are only for babies and she's a big girl. She also wants to do everything on her own without me helping her or even assisting her or even telling her how to do it. She's real stubborn, and has her own set mind frame on how to do things and insists she knows how to do it even at her little young age of hers.
I'm sure she'll learn to read soon too.
Well that's basically it, except for that I'm still getting my sinusitis / migraines daily, with my allergies and asthma acting up every so now and then, once or twice a day, sometimes every other day. It's a real hassle because everyone says it's within the "jordan air". Some have said to see a naturalist or homeopathic doctor about it, but, he's very expensive and people says it's worth it. I said, yes but even if it's worth it, what if you don't have it? What if it's so expensive that you can't afford that price and if it's on a continuous regular basis how would that fit into your budget?
Yes, these people that advise this can say this to me easily because they're either single or just newlywed so they don't have any kids, or the ones that do have kids have just one, not 3 like I do.
*Sigh*
It'll get better insha'Allah I hope and pray.
Let's see of all the changes that happened since then.
I went for Hajj in Dec 2007. Actually my husband and I won the trip to Hajj.
I remember recieving a phone call and a man on the phone telling me that I won a trip for Hajj. I asked him how he got my number, and he told me a sister gave it to him. I asked if this was a joke. He said it wasn't a joke and that it was real. That's when I told him to talk to my husband about it.
Anyways to make a long story short, we were able to go for Hajj as long as this production company for Saudi channel 2 would be able to film a documentary on Hajj called "Journey of a Life time". So we were able to do our Hajj, yet we still had to do some filming of Hajj rites and things. It was good. It was an amazing experience. Alhamdulillah.
So, it's about 20 episodes series and if you get satellite, depending on your local area check for a show called "Journey of a Life time" Saudi channel 2, production by Waseelah Production Company.
We also moved into a new home in Dec 2007.
Isa turned 6 in Dec 2007, Daliyah turned 2 in Jan 2008, and Ibrahim turned 10 in March 2008.
There's not much really going on, except the kids are getting older and bigger.
Daliyah wants to be potty trained so she insists that diapers are only for babies and she's a big girl. She also wants to do everything on her own without me helping her or even assisting her or even telling her how to do it. She's real stubborn, and has her own set mind frame on how to do things and insists she knows how to do it even at her little young age of hers.
I'm sure she'll learn to read soon too.
Well that's basically it, except for that I'm still getting my sinusitis / migraines daily, with my allergies and asthma acting up every so now and then, once or twice a day, sometimes every other day. It's a real hassle because everyone says it's within the "jordan air". Some have said to see a naturalist or homeopathic doctor about it, but, he's very expensive and people says it's worth it. I said, yes but even if it's worth it, what if you don't have it? What if it's so expensive that you can't afford that price and if it's on a continuous regular basis how would that fit into your budget?
Yes, these people that advise this can say this to me easily because they're either single or just newlywed so they don't have any kids, or the ones that do have kids have just one, not 3 like I do.
*Sigh*
It'll get better insha'Allah I hope and pray.
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
Canadian Muslim Woman files Complaint Over Dress Code
I read this and was appalled. Is it really that much of a big deal that she did it 2" longer than the usual short mini skirt?
I would like to know if this is out of a safety precaution, or is it because for the sake of impressing the others with how GOOD you can look.
I know this sister didn't want to do it for the image of the people of looking GOOD in their eyes, in the sense of the way they wanted her to by wearing a short mini skirt. I don't think it's a big deal for her to wear a long skirt. If they had no problem with it in the beginning when she started, why start now?
Were they complaints against her because people felt she didn't follow the uniform rules of having pants or mini skirts? Is her service so unsatisfactory that she had to lose her job over this issue?
I hate it when certain places makes certain people lose their jobs because of the way they are dressed. Either they're dressed down, or they're dressed up it's all about image to them. One sister chose to wear the hijab to her work. She was working there for two years, she was having a great time. She finally decided to change herself and wear the head-scarf. Her employers, her boss and co-workers all knew she was a Muslim. They had no problem with it until she started wearing the head-scarf. Next thing she knew she was out of a job.
Of course, they really didn't say specifically it was because of her hijab. Their excuse was they had to lay off a few people and unfortunately she had to be the one to go. It's a mere coincidence that it just happened around the time she decided to wear it.
Then, there is another one in where she is a Muslim but, does not cover and was told in order to work here for us you would have to.
I think, it's no one's duty or rights to tell someone how they should be able to dress. If they want to dress modestly that's up to them. And remember, in the end everything is between them and Allah Alone. So, us making complaints isn't going to make the person change their mind. In fact, they'll be more determined just to spite you.
So , remember that next time when you come across someone like that.
I would like to know if this is out of a safety precaution, or is it because for the sake of impressing the others with how GOOD you can look.
I know this sister didn't want to do it for the image of the people of looking GOOD in their eyes, in the sense of the way they wanted her to by wearing a short mini skirt. I don't think it's a big deal for her to wear a long skirt. If they had no problem with it in the beginning when she started, why start now?
Were they complaints against her because people felt she didn't follow the uniform rules of having pants or mini skirts? Is her service so unsatisfactory that she had to lose her job over this issue?
I hate it when certain places makes certain people lose their jobs because of the way they are dressed. Either they're dressed down, or they're dressed up it's all about image to them. One sister chose to wear the hijab to her work. She was working there for two years, she was having a great time. She finally decided to change herself and wear the head-scarf. Her employers, her boss and co-workers all knew she was a Muslim. They had no problem with it until she started wearing the head-scarf. Next thing she knew she was out of a job.
Of course, they really didn't say specifically it was because of her hijab. Their excuse was they had to lay off a few people and unfortunately she had to be the one to go. It's a mere coincidence that it just happened around the time she decided to wear it.
Then, there is another one in where she is a Muslim but, does not cover and was told in order to work here for us you would have to.
I think, it's no one's duty or rights to tell someone how they should be able to dress. If they want to dress modestly that's up to them. And remember, in the end everything is between them and Allah Alone. So, us making complaints isn't going to make the person change their mind. In fact, they'll be more determined just to spite you.
So , remember that next time when you come across someone like that.
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
Pizza Hut & Nothing But
So, I tried one of the Pizza Huts here. A couple of friends of mine and I went out for dinner here. We got into the restaurant and rather than us being seated at our seats, we were told to find our own seats anywhere we wanted. Since, there was no one really in the restaurant besides ourselves, and a few other guys seated at another table, we sat at a booth near a window overlooking below outside in the busy streets.
We settled in, and were given our menus only two menus for us three, however, one was in Arabic, and the other in English.
We took only a couple of minutes to decide what we wanted and waited for the waiter to show up to take our orders. He didn't show up. We had to flag him down. We decided on a special deal price for 4, 2 medium specialty pizzas, with 4 garlic bread, 4 drinks, and an order of salad.
We decided to go for cheese garlic bread, and the vegetarian and meat lovers specialty pizzas with the cheese bites at the ends as crusts.
Then, we saw an appetizer that said grilled shredded chicken in BBQ sauce rolled up in a tortilla bread, and with salsa as dip. These looked good, so we ordered that as well.
I asked for an Orange Fanta, whereas my two friends asked for Pepsi.
Several minutes later, they brought us our table mats, our forks, and knives. Then, we were given our salad plate to get our own salad.
We waited several other minutes, and our drinks were brought. They forgot my Orange Fanta. I was given a Pepsi instead. I told them, I didn't order a Pepsi. They shrugged their head like they forgot what I ordered and I told them again that I wanted an Orange Fanta. They nodded and went away.
My friends started taking sips of their Pepsi in a plastic glass. They were given straws and we were told that they ran out of ice so the drinks were not cold at all, but, very warm.
Several minutes passed again, and the garlic bread with cheese was brought. We ate that up and I was wondering where my drink was, and why it was taking them so long to get the drink.
Were they making it fresh? Were they out in the back squeezing oranges, adding the baking soda, sugar and adding the water? They sure were taking a very long time to bring my drink.
I asked again, and was told it was coming. They brought a can several minutes later and gave me a straw. Where was my plastic cup? Why didn't I get one? They didn't say as to why I was given just a measly can, where my friends were given plastic cups.
So, we waited, and waited and wondered where these chicken tortillas were. Finally, our pizzas came. Talk about small little things. This is what they call a medium pizza? We were thinking, we should have gone with one pizza with these cheese bites at the end, and using another with the normal pan crust.
As we ate our pizza slices, we kept pondering as to if they simply forgot our appetizer and whether or not, they would charge us for it. And if they did charge us for it, would we object and refuse to pay the bill? And would they simply force us to pay, even though we didn't get the order? What would their excuse be?
We waited, and waited as we listened to some 80's music playing. They played several songs by Celine Dion, Bryan Adams, Whitney Houston, Toni Braxton, Mariah Carey, Lionel Richie, Stevie Wonder, and a few dozen others while we were still waiting for the waiters.
We saw one and asked for our bill and to pack up the rest of our food in 3 separate boxes. We even divided how we wanted each of the slices onto our plates. He took the leftovers away and brought back all of the leftovers in ONE box.
We asked for a smaller take away one as we all had to go our own separate ways and we wanted to split them between the three of us. So, they took the box away again and came back several minutes later with 3 personal size boxes and the big box again for us to split it our own way.
*Whew* You think that would be over now? Nope, we were still waiting for our bill. We waited, and pondered if they were using the old method of counting it by hand. Nope, we saw them calculating everything onto the cash register and here he brought our bill.
So, he did charge us after all for the chicken tortillas even though we didn't get it. He insisted he did serve it to us, and we told him clearly we didn't get it, and we weren't going to pay for something that we didn't get and he should take it off.
He tried to smile and laugh about his mistake and try to tell us we should still pay for it anyways and he'll prepare the order for us which will take another several minutes probably another 30 minutes or so to prepare.
We declined and said no, take it off our bill, we have to go homes to our families please. So, after 15 minutes of waiting, they took it off our bill and we paid and wondered how much we should tip him?
50 cents? 75 cents? My friend opted to tip him only 75 cents I think, got up and gathered our things and headed back.
I would say this place needs improvement BIG time. They would need better customer service as what they clearly displayed was not accepted at all. So my review for that place out of a ten would be a 4. Yes, the food was alright, not that bad, but, still they need to improve it better if they want to reach a 10 or even for me to go pass 6.
Honestly, do you think we did the right thing in complaining about the food taking so long? And the right thing about refusing to pay for something we clearly did not order?
Email me your opinions, and comments and even if you have similar experiences such as this, share it if you can or wish, and we can sit back and relate and say: "When will they ever learn?"
The location of this Pizza Hut is in Amman, Jordan on University Street, right next to the Popeyes and all the other Fast Food restaurants.
We settled in, and were given our menus only two menus for us three, however, one was in Arabic, and the other in English.
We took only a couple of minutes to decide what we wanted and waited for the waiter to show up to take our orders. He didn't show up. We had to flag him down. We decided on a special deal price for 4, 2 medium specialty pizzas, with 4 garlic bread, 4 drinks, and an order of salad.
We decided to go for cheese garlic bread, and the vegetarian and meat lovers specialty pizzas with the cheese bites at the ends as crusts.
Then, we saw an appetizer that said grilled shredded chicken in BBQ sauce rolled up in a tortilla bread, and with salsa as dip. These looked good, so we ordered that as well.
I asked for an Orange Fanta, whereas my two friends asked for Pepsi.
Several minutes later, they brought us our table mats, our forks, and knives. Then, we were given our salad plate to get our own salad.
We waited several other minutes, and our drinks were brought. They forgot my Orange Fanta. I was given a Pepsi instead. I told them, I didn't order a Pepsi. They shrugged their head like they forgot what I ordered and I told them again that I wanted an Orange Fanta. They nodded and went away.
My friends started taking sips of their Pepsi in a plastic glass. They were given straws and we were told that they ran out of ice so the drinks were not cold at all, but, very warm.
Several minutes passed again, and the garlic bread with cheese was brought. We ate that up and I was wondering where my drink was, and why it was taking them so long to get the drink.
Were they making it fresh? Were they out in the back squeezing oranges, adding the baking soda, sugar and adding the water? They sure were taking a very long time to bring my drink.
I asked again, and was told it was coming. They brought a can several minutes later and gave me a straw. Where was my plastic cup? Why didn't I get one? They didn't say as to why I was given just a measly can, where my friends were given plastic cups.
So, we waited, and waited and wondered where these chicken tortillas were. Finally, our pizzas came. Talk about small little things. This is what they call a medium pizza? We were thinking, we should have gone with one pizza with these cheese bites at the end, and using another with the normal pan crust.
As we ate our pizza slices, we kept pondering as to if they simply forgot our appetizer and whether or not, they would charge us for it. And if they did charge us for it, would we object and refuse to pay the bill? And would they simply force us to pay, even though we didn't get the order? What would their excuse be?
We waited, and waited as we listened to some 80's music playing. They played several songs by Celine Dion, Bryan Adams, Whitney Houston, Toni Braxton, Mariah Carey, Lionel Richie, Stevie Wonder, and a few dozen others while we were still waiting for the waiters.
We saw one and asked for our bill and to pack up the rest of our food in 3 separate boxes. We even divided how we wanted each of the slices onto our plates. He took the leftovers away and brought back all of the leftovers in ONE box.
We asked for a smaller take away one as we all had to go our own separate ways and we wanted to split them between the three of us. So, they took the box away again and came back several minutes later with 3 personal size boxes and the big box again for us to split it our own way.
*Whew* You think that would be over now? Nope, we were still waiting for our bill. We waited, and pondered if they were using the old method of counting it by hand. Nope, we saw them calculating everything onto the cash register and here he brought our bill.
So, he did charge us after all for the chicken tortillas even though we didn't get it. He insisted he did serve it to us, and we told him clearly we didn't get it, and we weren't going to pay for something that we didn't get and he should take it off.
He tried to smile and laugh about his mistake and try to tell us we should still pay for it anyways and he'll prepare the order for us which will take another several minutes probably another 30 minutes or so to prepare.
We declined and said no, take it off our bill, we have to go homes to our families please. So, after 15 minutes of waiting, they took it off our bill and we paid and wondered how much we should tip him?
50 cents? 75 cents? My friend opted to tip him only 75 cents I think, got up and gathered our things and headed back.
I would say this place needs improvement BIG time. They would need better customer service as what they clearly displayed was not accepted at all. So my review for that place out of a ten would be a 4. Yes, the food was alright, not that bad, but, still they need to improve it better if they want to reach a 10 or even for me to go pass 6.
Honestly, do you think we did the right thing in complaining about the food taking so long? And the right thing about refusing to pay for something we clearly did not order?
Email me your opinions, and comments and even if you have similar experiences such as this, share it if you can or wish, and we can sit back and relate and say: "When will they ever learn?"
The location of this Pizza Hut is in Amman, Jordan on University Street, right next to the Popeyes and all the other Fast Food restaurants.
Tuesday, November 13, 2007
Colors of My Walls & Carpets
Assalamu alaikum wr wb
I have not posted here in ages because I have been busy with the children, and living here in Amman, Jordan.
In less than two weeks, I'll be moving into a new apartment in where I will have to decide right this week, actually going in a day or two the colors for my walls and the colors for my carpets.
Now, I picked out a few colors here and there for both of them. However, my husband has other plans or other colors in mind. For example, he wanted a grey color for the walls and carpet telling me it looks sophiscated. I think gray just looks dull. I don't like gray carpets nor gray walls. No offense, to anyone that has that in their homes, but, to me gray just sounds *Blech*
A friend of mine even agreed that gray would look like a hospital or a mental institution, which I said perfect place for where my hubby would want to dwell in if he got to pick this color. But, this is our home, and since I'll be living in it more than he will because he'll be at work.
He practically lives at work too, so having it in his colors what for? It should be comfy to me since I'll be here most of the time with the children and myself. Yes, I'll be entertaining tons of sisters in the area and I think most of them would agree that my colors are nice too.
He should just give it a chance, I'm really not that bad with colors so I really don't know why he seems to think that way. Alhamdulillah, I do know I shouldn't really complain because there has been worse cases in where people don't really have a choice at all. It's my "final say" and that's it. At least, he's not necessarily saying, "It's my final say, my final decision, not your choice but, mine."
But, still I want to be able to pick my own colors since I'll be here for quite a few years.
So, I thought about my room with a nice medium-light lavender/lilac color. I'm sorry, but, I really love that color. For the longest time I have loved that color and I'm never sick of that color. I think that color on my walls would go nicely.
My hubby disagrees, especially if it's for "our room" he says. I said, "ok not our room than perhaps the ladies salon." He disagreed, I said "ok. How about the kitchen?" He disagreed again and said the kitchen and bathroom had tiles so you didn't need color in there. Am I suppose to pick the broom closet as a place for me to pick my own colors for the walls and carpet? So, this tiny little room where if I were to stretch, really stretch my arms out wide I could be touching both sides this is where I'm suppose to get to pick my own colors? That doesn't seem right or fair at all. So, my room or our room it is. :D
It's not like I picked a bad color, it's a nice flowery, scented color for the walls. It'll add a nice brightness to the room. I picked a nice pistachio light green for the carpet. I'll even pick an ivory black one if he disagrees as both go really nice with the lilac. But, I think he wanted me to go for the beige, a medium beige or a gold with that. I told him that those didn't go well at all.
I even went on this one site called http://www.shawfloors.com and here it showed me a range of carpet styles and colors and I could also do one of where it would show how it would look in the room, and you could pick colors of the walls to match it accordingly.
I think the color I picked for "our room" will look nice. It just needs a chance. It'll work and eventually in the end he'll see that I'm right. He should realize that by now after 10 years of marriage that I'm almost always right. Even all his friends will comment to him on something and he'll agree even though that was my opinion and he says it sounded better from his friend than from me. *rolls eyes*
As for the boys room, I decided on a light blue for the walls and a dark green for the carpet. Or even going with 2 walls of the light blue color and 2 walls of the light green color and a dark green carpet. My boys want to use the blue for the top of the walls going all the way around for the sky color, and use the bottom half including the carpet for the green for the grass. They want to hang little balls from the ceiling as their planets, and put some cotton on the walls for clouds and hang a sun picture and a moon picture. I told them their glow in the dark stickers could work really nice on the ceiling.
My hubby thinks these colors will just make the room look like a "fun clown house" and he wanted to go with a more entertaining look. I told him, these are the children's room, if you go with an entertaining look rather than a look that they're pleased with. They won't really look forward to being in their rooms or sleeping. They won't enjoy their time here, rather they'll look forward to returning back as quickly as possible because their opinions don't matter.
Besides, why should their room look entertaining anways? It's a kids room. Who are you going to entertain in there other than other children? Other children won't find the gray or beige colors as "fun" colors. Not to mention the mess they'd make and beige and gray you would definitely see it.
Now, there's my daughter's Daliyah's room and it'll also be used as a guest room for overnight guests to stay in. This room will be a light-medium pink walls color and a dark pink carpet. Again, he disagrees saying another color would be better. I think going with a medium dark color for the carpets, especially in the kids room is better, less messier than a light color.
I know, he looks at his friends places, the ones that have no children and say, "Check theirs out it's nice." But, remember because they have no children they go with colors that will go according to them. Sure, they can pick nice light colors and pick furniture that will go with them. But, glass tables, and dining tables and coffee tables with glass in them don't work well with children at all. It does not matter if you don't allow your children in certain rooms where these items are, accidents happen and it's better to be safe than sorry.
Now the ladies salon and men's salon have already been picked and we've pretty much AGREED on the colors of the walls and the carpets in there. That is pretty much surprising too. But, we're going according with what the carpets and our floor sofas are matching with.
I do want to add additional items to the house to make it more homely and more comfy to me. I have a picture in my mind as to how I want things to look, and where I want things to go and organize it. It's all in my head. I just have to take the steps into getting it done and insha'Allah hopefully it'll look as good as in my head as it is in real life.
If anyone has any suggestions or comments I would appreciate it. Please be kind though, the last time I really blogged. That is, when I really blogged I got a lot of unkind comments that made me feel that I really couldn't post much on my blog without people pointing fingers and giving me stern looks.
Yes, I have issues but people have issues, this is why we feel better when we vent and rant and especially writing down here it's all out and not bottled up inside causing more stress which is not healthy at all.
Alhamdulillah, I'll try to post as often as I can. I don't know if I'll be able to be as active as my other blogging friends. But, we'll see insha'Allah and only time will tell.
On a note to end this entry I'll leave it at, if any sisters in Amman want to help me with organizing, unpacking and watching the kids feel free to contact me. :) I'll be more than happy to accept your gracious offer. Now, I just need to figure out where I'm going to get 20-30 really big boxes for me to put my things into.
Someone suggested I should just put them into plastic bags and garbage bags and carry them back and forth. Ok, I know it's only a 5 min walk away and only a 1-2 min drive away. But, who has all that energy to go back and forth with heavy plastic bags? I rather get the mini truck to load all our things. But, I don't want to do it all in one day. I want to space it out within these two weeks and move the things that I'm not using right now there now. And, all the things that I'm using to get there eventually when I get there.
So, my kids aren't going to read all their books on their bookshelf right now. They'll read a few here and there, so to go with their favorite books and putting that aside and taking the rest to the new place would be better. Same for the children's toys and my things. Just putting them aside at the new place and then at the final end moving the rest of them will be less stressful.
With my sinusitis (severe headaches) and allergy, and asthma attacks these past 3 months I think I want to try to take it easy as much as possible. But, also move before the cold hits in.
:) JazakuAllahkhairun for reading. So all comments are appreciated.
I have not posted here in ages because I have been busy with the children, and living here in Amman, Jordan.
In less than two weeks, I'll be moving into a new apartment in where I will have to decide right this week, actually going in a day or two the colors for my walls and the colors for my carpets.
Now, I picked out a few colors here and there for both of them. However, my husband has other plans or other colors in mind. For example, he wanted a grey color for the walls and carpet telling me it looks sophiscated. I think gray just looks dull. I don't like gray carpets nor gray walls. No offense, to anyone that has that in their homes, but, to me gray just sounds *Blech*
A friend of mine even agreed that gray would look like a hospital or a mental institution, which I said perfect place for where my hubby would want to dwell in if he got to pick this color. But, this is our home, and since I'll be living in it more than he will because he'll be at work.
He practically lives at work too, so having it in his colors what for? It should be comfy to me since I'll be here most of the time with the children and myself. Yes, I'll be entertaining tons of sisters in the area and I think most of them would agree that my colors are nice too.
He should just give it a chance, I'm really not that bad with colors so I really don't know why he seems to think that way. Alhamdulillah, I do know I shouldn't really complain because there has been worse cases in where people don't really have a choice at all. It's my "final say" and that's it. At least, he's not necessarily saying, "It's my final say, my final decision, not your choice but, mine."
But, still I want to be able to pick my own colors since I'll be here for quite a few years.
So, I thought about my room with a nice medium-light lavender/lilac color. I'm sorry, but, I really love that color. For the longest time I have loved that color and I'm never sick of that color. I think that color on my walls would go nicely.
My hubby disagrees, especially if it's for "our room" he says. I said, "ok not our room than perhaps the ladies salon." He disagreed, I said "ok. How about the kitchen?" He disagreed again and said the kitchen and bathroom had tiles so you didn't need color in there. Am I suppose to pick the broom closet as a place for me to pick my own colors for the walls and carpet? So, this tiny little room where if I were to stretch, really stretch my arms out wide I could be touching both sides this is where I'm suppose to get to pick my own colors? That doesn't seem right or fair at all. So, my room or our room it is. :D
It's not like I picked a bad color, it's a nice flowery, scented color for the walls. It'll add a nice brightness to the room. I picked a nice pistachio light green for the carpet. I'll even pick an ivory black one if he disagrees as both go really nice with the lilac. But, I think he wanted me to go for the beige, a medium beige or a gold with that. I told him that those didn't go well at all.
I even went on this one site called http://www.shawfloors.com and here it showed me a range of carpet styles and colors and I could also do one of where it would show how it would look in the room, and you could pick colors of the walls to match it accordingly.
I think the color I picked for "our room" will look nice. It just needs a chance. It'll work and eventually in the end he'll see that I'm right. He should realize that by now after 10 years of marriage that I'm almost always right. Even all his friends will comment to him on something and he'll agree even though that was my opinion and he says it sounded better from his friend than from me. *rolls eyes*
As for the boys room, I decided on a light blue for the walls and a dark green for the carpet. Or even going with 2 walls of the light blue color and 2 walls of the light green color and a dark green carpet. My boys want to use the blue for the top of the walls going all the way around for the sky color, and use the bottom half including the carpet for the green for the grass. They want to hang little balls from the ceiling as their planets, and put some cotton on the walls for clouds and hang a sun picture and a moon picture. I told them their glow in the dark stickers could work really nice on the ceiling.
My hubby thinks these colors will just make the room look like a "fun clown house" and he wanted to go with a more entertaining look. I told him, these are the children's room, if you go with an entertaining look rather than a look that they're pleased with. They won't really look forward to being in their rooms or sleeping. They won't enjoy their time here, rather they'll look forward to returning back as quickly as possible because their opinions don't matter.
Besides, why should their room look entertaining anways? It's a kids room. Who are you going to entertain in there other than other children? Other children won't find the gray or beige colors as "fun" colors. Not to mention the mess they'd make and beige and gray you would definitely see it.
Now, there's my daughter's Daliyah's room and it'll also be used as a guest room for overnight guests to stay in. This room will be a light-medium pink walls color and a dark pink carpet. Again, he disagrees saying another color would be better. I think going with a medium dark color for the carpets, especially in the kids room is better, less messier than a light color.
I know, he looks at his friends places, the ones that have no children and say, "Check theirs out it's nice." But, remember because they have no children they go with colors that will go according to them. Sure, they can pick nice light colors and pick furniture that will go with them. But, glass tables, and dining tables and coffee tables with glass in them don't work well with children at all. It does not matter if you don't allow your children in certain rooms where these items are, accidents happen and it's better to be safe than sorry.
Now the ladies salon and men's salon have already been picked and we've pretty much AGREED on the colors of the walls and the carpets in there. That is pretty much surprising too. But, we're going according with what the carpets and our floor sofas are matching with.
I do want to add additional items to the house to make it more homely and more comfy to me. I have a picture in my mind as to how I want things to look, and where I want things to go and organize it. It's all in my head. I just have to take the steps into getting it done and insha'Allah hopefully it'll look as good as in my head as it is in real life.
If anyone has any suggestions or comments I would appreciate it. Please be kind though, the last time I really blogged. That is, when I really blogged I got a lot of unkind comments that made me feel that I really couldn't post much on my blog without people pointing fingers and giving me stern looks.
Yes, I have issues but people have issues, this is why we feel better when we vent and rant and especially writing down here it's all out and not bottled up inside causing more stress which is not healthy at all.
Alhamdulillah, I'll try to post as often as I can. I don't know if I'll be able to be as active as my other blogging friends. But, we'll see insha'Allah and only time will tell.
On a note to end this entry I'll leave it at, if any sisters in Amman want to help me with organizing, unpacking and watching the kids feel free to contact me. :) I'll be more than happy to accept your gracious offer. Now, I just need to figure out where I'm going to get 20-30 really big boxes for me to put my things into.
Someone suggested I should just put them into plastic bags and garbage bags and carry them back and forth. Ok, I know it's only a 5 min walk away and only a 1-2 min drive away. But, who has all that energy to go back and forth with heavy plastic bags? I rather get the mini truck to load all our things. But, I don't want to do it all in one day. I want to space it out within these two weeks and move the things that I'm not using right now there now. And, all the things that I'm using to get there eventually when I get there.
So, my kids aren't going to read all their books on their bookshelf right now. They'll read a few here and there, so to go with their favorite books and putting that aside and taking the rest to the new place would be better. Same for the children's toys and my things. Just putting them aside at the new place and then at the final end moving the rest of them will be less stressful.
With my sinusitis (severe headaches) and allergy, and asthma attacks these past 3 months I think I want to try to take it easy as much as possible. But, also move before the cold hits in.
:) JazakuAllahkhairun for reading. So all comments are appreciated.
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